Shelli Guyse and Husband (on JET Cover, 2/21/52)
I tell ya--looking at the these pages from JET Magazine from the 1950s indicates that in terms of BW-WM marriages or even bw and wm openly loving each other as boyfriend-girlfriends, bw and wm have gone WAY backwards instead of forward. How could these AA women in the 1950s feel so free to OPENLY love and marry wm when SOME bw in 2010 are still ducking, dodging, and acting strange around wm??????
Y'all can argue with my answer to this question all you want and I still won't budge, but this backwards movement is due to the overwhelming number of bw who bought into the Black Man Loyalty hoopla of the 1960-1970s combined with the present day campaign directed at AA women (MAINLY) to move like lambs to the slaughter to embrace this notion of "black love." It's a double whammy. IMO, "black love" is just the new and improved cage for AA women.
Who exactly are bw supposed to love inside the cage because there is nothing caging bm to keep them in there for all of that "black love." So we have all of these nothing-but-a-bm women inside the cage, hating on each other, and willing to tear each other to pieces over any crumb of a bm who happens to fall in there. And y'all know I'm NOT lying. Whew! This stuff is just SURREAL.
SMH Bm really sold bw a bag of hooey, but I can't keep blaming only the men. WHY DO so many AA Women KEEP FALLING FOR THE SAME LIE WITH A NEW NAME???
Many AA women and their daughters are sadly still bogged down in that loyalty bag and being used, while the typical bm is an equal opportunity dater and is busy stepping over bw in search of a lighter/whiter woman, but not before he reminds bw of how undesirable they are.
I have to point out here that most of my life, I've been in the equal opportunity dating camp, which means that I was willing to date and/or marry any QUALITY, loving, loveable, compatible man who I loved, who TREATED me like he loved me, and who asked me to marry him.
HOWEVER, as quiet as it is kept, there are plenty of other bw who PREFER wm and have always preferred them. So the simple solution would be for those bw to be with the type of men of their preference. Right? Oh NO--the "black" police is always on patrol, ready to try to do serious emotional damage to a bw who says she prefers wm or acts on that preference. Whereas, if a bm says that he only likes the light/white women, he gets a high five MOST of the time or nothing is said to him. Check it out.
Then, there is a portion of bw who prefer bm. And the simple solution would be for these bw to be with the type of men of their preference. Right?
But what do these preferences of bw tell you? It ought to make you realize that ALL AA women ARE NOT the SAME. We are not clones. WE don't ALL want a BM or a WM. We are INDIVIDUALS. Wm are more appealing to many bw out there for a variety of reasons, as are bm. Any AA woman is FREE to prefer to be with whomever she wants and I will support her to the hilt in her preference. That's a key part of what BLACK WOMEN'S EMPOWERMENT is a about--the FREEDOM to choose and if you don't feel free to choose your mate, wherever you are right now and of whatever race, gender, or nationality you are, YOU ARE NOT FREE. You don't even have the most basic freedom.
Alberta and Ernest Briggs (Detroit Millionaire Heir) JET, 5/28/1953
Those bw who are equal opportunity daters (EOD) are not having nearly as much of a problem getting attention from quality men and marrying quality men as the others because it's obvious that if you are receptive to MOST men in the global village, you will find many more men who are interested in you--that is, IF those EOD bw make it a point to position themselves to meet non-bm.
Royce Wallace (Singer) and Alexander Outerbridge (Wealthy Socialite) JET 2/9/1956
I have to keep reminding the nothing-but-a-bm group as well as the bw who are EODs about that NEWSWEEK Magazine piece that says 14% of AA men who are married are married to non-black women compared to 4% of AA women who are married to non-black men. And only 35% of AA men are married. That means 65% of them are not married to anyone. Since you include AA men in your dating/marriage pool, that's critical information to both groups of you. LOTS of bw WANT to get married. There is nothing in it for a woman to just be a semen dump for a string of different men unless she's a hooker. Practically any woman of any age and any kind of looks can get sex just about any time of the day or night--if all she wants is sex. Also remember that this is a marriage oriented site, so if you're not interested in marriage, I wonder why you're even reading this.
Here's Marlon Brando (Actor) and Barbara Roberts. JET 8/18/1955
WW and other non-bw are NOT kidnapping these bm and forcing them into marriage. However, it's gotten to the point that some bm are now claiming that their white girlfriends and wives are not white. SMH The reason they do this is to that they can have the light/white woman and still drain what they can from a "sistah." AA men really think AA women are dumb! They wouldn't even try this if they didn't.
Notice the large number of AA men online who are involved in this bogus campaign, claiming now that Kim Kardasian, girlfriend of football player, Reggie Bush is not "white." And then, there are those who claim that her white sister who is also married to a black ballplayer is not white either. These women are of Armenian background. Obviously, these women are "white." The whites I've checked with have said that these women are as white as any other white person and ONLY whites can define who is white or black. That's a white privilege. Blacks are not allowed to decide that.
But bw, get ready. Pretty soon, AA men will begin to call blonde, blue-eyed women "black" and to those people who think that won't happen, think again. After all, Carol Channing (a blonde, brown-eyed Broadway star for decades) revealed that her father was a black man.
"White" is a construct; therefore it can change easily.There are already plenty of dark immigrants who are labelled as white sometimes and non white at other times, whenever it's beneficial. But here's the real test, bw. Let Halle start dating the Kardasian women's brother, if they had one and see how quickly bm will accuse her of overlooking a 'brotha' for a "white" boy. LOL!
Anyway, I feel that bm AND bw should be left alone to be with whomever they choose. Not just bm, but ALSO bw and when I see this occurring, I will gladly rest my case.
( Below Right) Pearl Bailey (Legendary Blues Singer) and Louis Bellson (Master Drummer), JET 1/15/1953
Anyway, let me repeat to the wm who wonder why bw won't pay attention to you, I meet so many bw who do NOT believe that wm find them attractive because they've swallowed the lies that bm and the bc drilled into them about their non-desirability to men, and about how 'wm wantcha ONLY for sex.' But I will never believe that wm are any less interested in bw than they ever were because biology is biology.I know some of y'all wish that you could go back to the 1950s when some bw obviously welcomed your respectful interest and attention.
(Above) Joan Allen Simmons and Roger Franklin, British Physicist. JET 1/16/1953
And these pages from JET magazine prove that SOME wm have defied all of the social constraints and laws to marry bw. This is why it's so important to document or RECORD history--as I'm doing with my essays. Some people would never believe this if we didn't have the documented proof. THANK YOU, LORRAINE for these documents. I really think you need a site that is dedicated to just compiling all of this critical history. And if you're too busy to do that after digging out the info, then there should be other bw volunteering to do it. All of this work shouldn't be on just a couple of us when so many other bw are benefiting. They're being informed and uplifted by this info, so they should be helping to keep it out here to further uplift themselves and other AA women. We actually just need a site to house African American women's history and achievements.
Anyway, I KNOW for the most part that a large portion of ALL men are interested in ALL women because human males are mammals just like all other mammals. Also mature women know that SOME men of ALL groups just 'wantcha for sex.'
Ione Dugger and William Vargus, JET 4/15/1954
Bw are so bamboozled by all of the "black love" and 'loyalty to bm' nonsense until these days, MANY bw are still afraid to say out loud that certain wm turn them on. Y'all can deny that or pretend that you'd say that around some of your black girlfriends, but MOST of you won't since you fear the "black" police (sometimes called the "soul patrol.") You know it and I know it. And I have never met a bw who would say that they prefer wm around ANY bm--not even a bm who's sitting there with a blonde on each side or one who knowingly dates mostly non-bw, whereas many bm don't hesitate to say that they prefer light/white women around bw. Too many AA women are like timid mice around these "black" police/soul patrol characters. These "police" have NO POWER aside from what YOU give them to exercise control over your life.
I hate to say this to y'all bw, but a lot of you are getting what you deserve. You don't DEMAND respect from AA men. You don't. I see this. These males have NO POWER, aside from what you give them. You're allowing a POWERLESS group of defeatist-minded loudmouths to control the most important aspect of your life.
Anyway, I'll start posting some podcasts in the next few days. I'll continue posting pics, notes, and commentary in some cases but my podcasts with be the main entree in most cases this year.
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