This morning early, Darren got up in our darkened bedroom, and I heard him fooling around with electrical cords. I lay there wondering why was he doing that at dawn? Well, a few minutes later, something started flashing from on top of the dresser. I pulled myself up to look at it and there it was! The digitized picture frame that I had been admiring at several stores sat on the dresser flashing pictures of me and Darren in scenes from our travels. The headline atop some of the pictures was HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!
Duh! My darling husband is always full of surprises. LOL! He laughed at me as I pulled my head from beneath the quilt and gawked at the frame. It's a beautiful gift and just what I've been wanting, but I hadn't been able to justify spending the money for it.
I never seem to remember the exact date of our anniversary. All I know is that it's in early February. I could check the marriage certificate, but who cares about such exactness; the man I married is, of course, the most important part of all of this. The more time we spend together, the more our souls intertwine.
And that's what our union is all about: the union of souls--not "race," skin shade, hair texture or other superficial aspects of a person. I'm so drawn to the Bahai philosophy because their philosophy is (and the Bahai folks I know LIVE their creed) that there is 'unity in diversity' or 'oneness.' I wish that folks in other religions could catch a clue about that.
My gift to mon cher? Well, I gave him a gift I'd been working on for several weeks: a luscious, 100% alpaca scarf in a divine cranberry tweed color that I knitted in a gorgeous cable design. I knew he'd love the color and the intricate textured cable design. He's wearing it now. He loves it when I make things for him.
I've had my share of challenges, but I choose to focus on the fact that I have been blessed to be on the receiving end of much good fortune in life and much of it comes via the quality men I have CHOSEN or ALLOW to surround me in this patriarchal world. And this includes my quality male relatives. This is why VETTING is so critical. VETTING is 80%. If you vet well--especially the men that you ALLOW into your social environment--you'll be walking on easy or easier street in much of the other aspects of your life--because these men will provide and protect. This is important because ALL women are born into a patriarchal world, and a woman's position in a community, society, world, etc. is closely aligned with the men in her surroundings. Many of you wonder why certain women in the world seem to be on a pedestal and adored by all. Well, it's because of their men. Some of you wonder why some women seem to be in the dumps in the world? Well, it's because of their men or the men they allow into their social, emotional, and mental sphere.
If you vet well, and align yourself with ONLY men of quality, I promise you that you will change your life and the lives of your children (if there are any) for the better now, and for generations to come.
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And with that said, I WILL get back to more lighthearted topics here about MY life and the life I have with my loving partner. That's what my blog was originally about--before I began to discuss many of the problems that other bw are having finding or not finding their "Mr. Right." I know that many of you just won't accept this but the ONLY reason why you continue to have problems with men is because you CHOOSE to have problems with these men by choosing men who are chin-hairline deep in problems or limitations. Many of you then try to pretend that the man doesn't have a problem or only a tiny one. LOL! I KNOW you don't think it's that simple, BUT it is. I never had and still don't have problems with men because I don't CHOOSE to have those problems. Always remember the subtitle of my BOOK 2:" YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON YOUR CHOICES."
Say "NO," absolutely "NO" and Hell "NO" to problem men, and you will NOT have those issues in your life.
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And in case, you haven't read my post beneath this one, Please do so. LOL!
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