Knowing when to sacrifice one thing for another comes down to values and prioritization and is different for everyone. --Dennis Thomas … Read more
Thanks, RA for this ARTICLE. Here are Dominique and Dan. She has literally moved on to greener pastures. Lol Fascinating work that Dan does!
(I didn’t post the whole pic of them because I don’t like posting pics of biracial children because it seems to me that some people have an unnatural or creepy attraction to them. Yuck!)
It’s been a while! I tell ya–I’ve been having a good time. I jumped headlong but rolled backwards into inline skating this summer, aka Rollerblading. So, I’ve truly been rocking and rolling. I’ve roller skated and inline skated since I was in my early 20s, but strayed away from the sport for long periods.
I’ve decided now that I want to develop advanced skills in inline skating. Why? [Read more…]
It occurred to me while I was on the skating trail this morning that good skating ability is based on practicing good skating form. Success at many things in life is largely based on good form, usually gained from an assortment of uplifting CULTURAL learnings such as a strong work ethic and having savvy about life.
I’ve had success in marriage and I can confidently say that because I’ve had 2 long, rewarding marriages–not just for me, but also for my husbands–the former and present one.I can assure you that neither of them has any complaints. Lol My marital success is based on good marital form. I’ll be talking about what good marital form entails more in future segments.
Here I am at 6:30 a.m. this morning right before our workout. We get out in the park early before the heat and humidity slams the area and saps up our best energy.
Everyone knows by now that physical fitness is important because it’s a de- stressor and generally preserves health. Well, duh! But many people don’t act like they know that. Darren and I do a rigorous workout at least 4-5 days every week. We don’t always do it together though. It depends on our schedule for the day. We actively encourage each other to engage in exercise though and we compliment each others’ appearance. Did you do your workout yet? It might rain later, so you’d better go now. Or he’ll come upstairs and say: Come on! Let’s get over to the park before it gets too late. Or I’ll say: I’m going over to the park. You want to ride with me?
And there’s nothing like her man complimenting her figure to make most [Read more…]
This is a scanned Polaroid pic of me back in the very late 1990s in Delaware. Please forgive the condition of it, but there I sit at my sewing machine table on a scorching hot dog day of summer day. I know the temperature outside because of my tank top and toasted skin. LOL! My ex-husband had also just given me this necklace that a friend of his sent to me as a gift from Bendel state in Nigeria, so that also helps me to pinpoint the date.
Anyway, I post this old pic as an indicator of a major turning point with the content of my site and focus. In a few days, it’ll be the 10th anniversary of my blackfemaleinterracialmarriage.com site. Yes, I started this leg of my life’s journey way back in July 2006! It’s been a rip-roaring segment of my life. Thank all of you for joining me for portions of it and contributing to the many rich discussions and experiences.
And wow–I have learned so much from all of you, about African American women! Primarily, I’ve learned so much [Read more…]
Received a note and this pic from E, a longtime reader the other day. She has been a reader of my site for about 7-8 years. She is a wise young woman with the best of reading tastes. LOL It always helps any of us so much to be able to access and communicate with likeminded others when we’re on any path in life. This is why I’ve written so many articles urging African American women to join or form a network of likeminded others. A network like that is a form of wealth! So, she keeps me posted about what’s going on in her life.
Evia, hope your April is going well. I have enjoyed my time so far out here and my dip into boarding school life. My husband has been working in LA since January so I am hoping to find a position closer to there at a well-regarded day school. Small town life is restorative, and the town is lovely and quirky, but I would love to be closer to the big city and bright lights, restaurants open late and CULTURE! I have attached a selfie we took as the ice plants bloomed out here last month. Gosh, California is beautiful.
I think I recall E telling me she’s a graduate of one of the Ivies. She is now loving her job as a teacher at an exclusive boarding school. I’m so happy she has stepped out of the “ordinary” for an African American woman and is [Read more…]
Thanks, so much CH for sending me this ARTICLE link! I’m sure that you, as a white man who appreciates black women, are happy to see prominent white men speaking out about this nonsense.
To those who may not be aware, recently, there was this (see pic) Old Navy Ad, featuring a Wm-Bw couple with their biracial son posted on Twitter that received many ignorant racist tweets. Some of us know that the son of Senator John McCain (candidate for the Presidency in 2008) is married to a black woman. I posted pics and their marriage announcement here on the Ezine a couple of years ago.
Anyway, here’s an ARTICLE from The Washington Post about the Senator’s son’s reaction to that Twitter brouhaha.
Therefore the senator’s son, who is married to a black woman, has no patience for critics of the clothing company’s ad. . . . Sen. John McCain’s son, Jack, had a blunt assessment of the people criticizing an Old Navy ad featuring an interracial couple: “Ignorant racists.” [He told them to] “Eat it.”
Okay, I scanned just a few of the tweets, and it was the usual garden variety vitriol from white racists at the bottom of the food chain, but what made me just move on fast were the ones from blacks. Some of them hotly stated [Read more…]
A few days ago, I received this note from a longtime reader and supporter of my work.
I have good news to share. I won a spot in People Magazine’s Natural Beauty contest. The magazine issue was released this past Friday (with Jennifer Anniston on the cover) and I’m on page 174. The issue is dated May 2, 2016. I publicly thanked Acts of Faith in Love and Life blog & Facebook page [listed under my BWE dropdown above] for letting the public know about the contest. When I let Faith know I won a spot we communicated about AA women being more proactive in participating in our media representation. WE need to take control of our personal brand. A picture of the People magazine page is attached to this email and feel free to share it.
Congratulations on your winning this spot in People Magazine! I’ve met you in person. You’re a positive, vivacious woman who oozes natural beauty, and who is also a talented salsa dancer. Thanks again for teaching us all those salsa moves at our MICOMSA retreat here at the farm! Lol You’ve invested time and energy in preserving your fitness and beauty, and countless times, you’ve shared with other black women the critical need to do the same. You’ve now been publicly rewarded. Bravo!
Taking charge of our media representation is SO critical, per your conversation with Faith. The shaping of our image requires very careful thought and long range thinking because what might make us look good today might backfire on down the road. For ex., I think that too many black women are trying to be crowned as the sexiest [Read more…]
—[Readers, I dedicate some of my posts directly to Adanna, my granddaughter, sharing life lessons I’ve learned with her and her female contemporaries, so that they may spread their wings and soar, from the earliest. Her dad, my son, wants me to write all of this down so that she can read these posts when she comes of age.]
CH, thanks for this video LINK!
My Dear Adanna,
This couple is from a video LINK I received yesterday from CH, who happens to be a white man, like your granddad: Darren–who you call Babu. LOL! Btw: you call me Nnenna.
CH usually sends me video links to ads and music videos that show black women with white men in what would be considered non-stereotypical settings. These links assist my advocacy to normalize black American women taking advantage of all their options in every area of life, including their romantic options with men of various races, ethnicities, religions, nationalities, etc. throughout the global village.
Here are my husband, Darren, and Adanna, my granddaughter, when she was 20 months old. Of her 3 granddads, I think she views him as the granddad who is her buddy, her BFF. He has endless patience with her, teaches her math concepts, spends time helping her put puzzles together, build Lego structures, tells her the names of different plants when they go walking, talks to her about the needs and personality of each plant, plays ball with her, acts like a silly goose with her, splashes in the swimming pool with her and gives her tips on water safety, etc. He is helping her to develop a thought system about the world that teaches her that knowing things, learning about nature, knowing how things operate and how each thing connects with other things, and that participating in various activities are all very important.
He could just as well spend that time with her playing a video game or watching TV, except that he knows that would be of much less value to her. Watching TV is a spectator activity. Motivating her to use her brain to connect dots about abstract concepts and the environment helps her to develop a way of viewing the world and to more confidently participate in it. What has this got to do with marriage, you might wonder. Well, [Read more…]
Thanks for this YT LINK, Lorraine that normalizes black women taking advantage of their options to be chosen by or to mingle and mate with who they feel is best for them. For me, this is so normal, but maybe that’s because I was married to, lived, and raised children with a man from another vastly different culture in his country and in his cultural milieu in this country for 25 years.
So, to me, it’s just weird that some people still struggle internally when they see black women with [Read more…]