There are no pics in this article. This is way too serious!
"Hefty can be heavenly. That seems to be the feeling of many black women. While they tend to be heavier than white women, they're significantly happier with their bodies, a Washington Post/Kaiser Family Foundation survey has discovered."
I don't know about bw in other parts of the world, but bw in the United States are surrounded by and bombarded with so many okeydokes until I've set up a new category here just for them.
The diabolical part about these okeydokes is that they flow seamlessly into a typical bw's life and before she knows it, they become a part of her self-definition and she then starts defending a self-definition that she had no input in. This is why there are so many AA women these days who don't think there's anything wrong with being obese and DEFEND their obesity!! While they weren't paying attention, someone slipped another poisonous page into their self-definition book, and they just accepted and embraced that page as a part of them!!!!!!
Being a black women does NOT equal being "hefty' or overweight or obese!
As I mentioned last week, an okeydoke is any maneuver or meme aimed at or associated with bw that results in keeping large numbers of bw from moving on and living life to the fullest or living well.
This particular one: Black women LOVE being fat is particularly egregious because it causes untold suffering and KILLS. As Darren pointed out to me: "You rarely EVER see fat, OLD people." Nope. Fat almost always kills early.
Got this note from RA pointing out this okeydoke article. Thanks for the link, RA and ding! ding! ding!! You recognized it as the okeydoke it is!!!!!!
But RA did say something that I disagree with, when she said this:
Hmm, I wonder why BW are soo interesting. Why aren;t they publishing studies about hispanic women or asian women? Or even some African women?
AA women are such perfect targets for these articles BECAUSE instead of admitting that a lot of the behavior of a significant percentage of AA women is WAY over the top and ABNORMAL and it's killing us, too many bw try to pretend we love being fat, or love having OOW children, love being unpartnered ("I don't need a man!"). We could and should just demurely say, "Yes, we know we need to work on this." But instead, so many AA women will start with all the silly bravado and bluster, which then gives the media the opportunity to make AA women look like FOOLS, which is exactly what they're doing with the article.
Then, we can count on a large number of AA women to blame the media for "picking on" AA women, when we actually could have handled the whole episode very differently and defused it.
Next thing we'll be hearing is that AA women just love being diabetics and love losing limbs, love having heart attacks, and love to die early. And then after a lot of bw wave those flags enough and bw are splashed all over the media, some bw will wonder why people are paying all of this attention to bw. LOL! It's like people watching a 3-headed man in a cage at the circus. That's why!
It's because the behavior is SO abnormal. It's suicidal. And suicide is not considered normal or appealing. I love Queen Latifah, but she's never going to sell suicide-by-food to me!
Aside from the obvious health issues that are proven to be caused by or greatly worsened by OBESITY, QLL men, do NOT, want abnormal-thinking, suicide-by-food women--JUST LIKE those of us QLL bw also do NOT want suicide-by-food men.
A case in point of the latter is that a refined, educated, and slim 40-something bw I met, recently who is new to the area, called me on Sunday to tell me that a local fiftyish bm asked her out on a date. She said that during the date, he told her all about his thriving business and property he owns and told her he was looking for a serious relationship or a woman to share his life. A wife.
The fact is that this guy is legit. People in this area know him. He is a community leader of sorts. He has lived here all of his life, and he's not lying about his financial success. She said that he is a "nice" man, but she's not interested BECAUSE he is OBESE (huge belly), poorly groomed. I've seen him and I agree. He also doesn't know the first thing about etiquette. Yet, he pointed out to her that he is a "good bm." LOL! She said he actually sat in his car and blew the horn loudly several times outside her townhouse when he came to pick her up, and committed several other etiquette no-nos during the evening. He, of course, went back for a second plateful of the high-caloric, high cholesterol food at the buffet meal that was provided. And then . . . And then, he ALSO had dessert! She said she doesn't want a man who doesn't take care of himself and said she was ashamed to be seen leaving the place with him.
Yet, this guy believes he's a "GOOD catch"!! LOL!
Too many AAs and other blacks in this country are OBESE or WAY overweight. Yes, I KNOW that many others in other groups are also obese. It does NOT matter whether whites, Asians, and Hispanics are fat too. And it doesn't matter whether SOME ww are fighting for fat acceptance. (smh)
When YOU are having a heart attack, stroke, or lose a toe or leg, it's not the ww, Aw, or HW's limb that's getting chopped up or is disabled by the heart attack or stroke. Is it? No, this will be happening to YOU! GEEZ!
Some of you bw are so happy that you can be fat and feel supposedly better about your fat (according to the media) than a white woman does until until you're smiling while digging your own early grave. You're feeling that at least you beat ww at something! Yeah, you're going to beat ww to the grave earlier.
This is INSANE!
BTW--I'm NOT buying all of this supposedly "high self-esteem" and "happier" that overweight bw supposedly have. Where is it? I don't see it anywhere. I have my own COMMON SENSE. I don't allow the media to feed me tripe.
BW--STOP LOOKING AT OTHER PEOPLE. Get YOUR own house in order. Count your calories and get a fitness regimen that works for you and stick to it. Even if you don't do it every day, do it MOST days.
Don't let ANYONE convince you that since you're a bw, then living a debilitated life and dying unneccesarily early is okay.
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