Happy Valentine’s Day to ALL!
A lot of holidays have no meaning to me, but I have to say I like certain ritual days, like this day. So does Darren, so we always do something special on Valentine’s Day. Unlike certain other commercial powerhouse days, Valentine’s Day celebrates love and we definitely need a LOT more of that in this country and world! So, we usually make something artsy for each other, exchange small gifts, and go out for a memorable activity/dinner.
Darren is a romantic man, so he loves this day! He left for work at 6 a.m. this morning, but before he left, he sneaked the artsy V-Day card (in pic above) that he’d made for me under the afghan on the bed where I was still sleeping. He loves surprising me like that. I machine-knitted him a Valentine heart (above pic), and will give him his favorite Godiva chocolates. Weeks ago, he made reservations for our dinner at a popular restaurant. This year, we have 8 p.m. reservations since he made the reservations early, but some years, we’ve gone to V-Day dinner as late as 10 p.m.
On the political front, I haven’t said much and I won’t. I’ve eliminated my news feed on my computer, and I haven’t watched the TV news since November. I don’t even know what’s going on in the world. Out here where we live, the rest of the world could have disappeared, and I wouldn’t know it. I consider that a good thing. I know some people stress themselves out by watching “the news” all the time, but I don’t need to know the news. I’ve told Darren and my sons to just tell me if/when we need to grab our bug out bags and run for the hills.
As I’ve advised, no matter what’s going on politically, if you count yourself among the average people, it’s foolish to allow anything in the political realm to stress you or interfere with decisions in your most important relationships because politics are guaranteed to change, whereas the damage you’ve done with all the stress to your body has damaged your organs, and for nothing. Never allow politics to get into your romantic life because after the political dust has settled or the direction has changed, you may have passed up or destroyed any romance or chance at romance or a meaningful relationship in your life. Politics are mainly about the movement of BIG money and power and decides which powerful group is going to control the lives of average people. The least average people can do is not allow politicians any input into their significant relationships.
Along with my too-many other enjoyable activities, I have been working on my podcast series for YouTube. A videographer friend of mine did the title sequence for it a few months ago when it was still warm, and she did a great job of capturing us strolling around out here on the grounds of the farm. I’m going to enjoy doing this series because it’s so meaningful to me. It’s especially close to my heart because my sons want me to do it.
I took the following profound quote from the Chase video posted above in the featured box.
When it comes to investing, it helps to adopt a long-term perspective. In this story we see a young boy and girl take the same approach with their relationship. They’re masters of being patient and waiting for the right time, which ultimately yields the best results.
I have always used this exact wisdom in my relationships with men, and I’ve [Read more…]
Darren and Adah, my granddaughter, (above) when she was a little over 2 years old.
It’s been a while! I’ve been involved in plenty of stimulating activities, lots of learning, and reflecting on various things. I’m worn out but loving it all. Thanks to all of you who continue to register for my mailing list. I appreciate you so much.
The election season has come and gone. Whew! I wasn’t surprised that the president-elect won. I never doubted he’d win. That is, until the scandal about the sexual gropings broke. At that point, I thought there might be a chance he’d lose, but he didn’t because the vast majority of women did what the vast majority of women have always done in a patriarchal world. They support the patriarchy. Duh!
So, the only thing I did after the results were announced was to remove the [Read more…]
Thanks, RA for this ARTICLE. Here are Dominique and Dan. She has literally moved on to greener pastures. Lol Fascinating work that Dan does!
(I didn’t post the whole pic of them because I don’t like posting pics of biracial children because it seems to me that some people have an unnatural or creepy attraction to them. Yuck!)
It’s been a while! I tell ya–I’ve been having a good time. I jumped headlong but rolled backwards into inline skating this summer, aka Rollerblading. So, I’ve truly been rocking and rolling. I’ve roller skated and inline skated since I was in my early 20s, but strayed away from the sport for long periods.
I’ve decided now that I want to develop advanced skills in inline skating. Why? [Read more…]
It occurred to me while I was on the skating trail this morning that good skating ability is based on practicing good skating form. Success at many things in life is largely based on good form, usually gained from an assortment of uplifting CULTURAL learnings such as a strong work ethic and having savvy about life.
I’ve had success in marriage and I can confidently say that because I’ve had 2 long, rewarding marriages–not just for me, but also for my husbands–the former and present one.I can assure you that neither of them has any complaints. Lol My marital success is based on good marital form. I’ll be talking about what good marital form entails more in future segments.
Here I am at 6:30 a.m. this morning right before our workout. We get out in the park early before the heat and humidity slams the area and saps up our best energy.
Everyone knows by now that physical fitness is important because it’s a de- stressor and generally preserves health. Well, duh! But many people don’t act like they know that. Darren and I do a rigorous workout at least 4-5 days every week. We don’t always do it together though. It depends on our schedule for the day. We actively encourage each other to engage in exercise though and we compliment each others’ appearance. Did you do your workout yet? It might rain later, so you’d better go now. Or he’ll come upstairs and say: Come on! Let’s get over to the park before it gets too late. Or I’ll say: I’m going over to the park. You want to ride with me?
And there’s nothing like her man complimenting her figure to make most [Read more…]
This is a scanned Polaroid pic of me back in the very late 1990s in Delaware. Please forgive the condition of it, but there I sit at my sewing machine table on a scorching hot dog day of summer day. I know the temperature outside because of my tank top and toasted skin. LOL! My ex-husband had also just given me this necklace that a friend of his sent to me as a gift from Bendel state in Nigeria, so that also helps me to pinpoint the date.
Anyway, I post this old pic as an indicator of a major turning point with the content of my site and focus. In a few days, it’ll be the 10th anniversary of my blackfemaleinterracialmarriage.com site. Yes, I started this leg of my life’s journey way back in July 2006! It’s been a rip-roaring segment of my life. Thank all of you for joining me for portions of it and contributing to the many rich discussions and experiences.
And wow–I have learned so much from all of you, about African American women! Primarily, I’ve learned so much [Read more…]
Received a note and this pic from E, a longtime reader the other day. She has been a reader of my site for about 7-8 years. She is a wise young woman with the best of reading tastes. LOL It always helps any of us so much to be able to access and communicate with likeminded others when we’re on any path in life. This is why I’ve written so many articles urging African American women to join or form a network of likeminded others. A network like that is a form of wealth! So, she keeps me posted about what’s going on in her life.
Evia, hope your April is going well. I have enjoyed my time so far out here and my dip into boarding school life. My husband has been working in LA since January so I am hoping to find a position closer to there at a well-regarded day school. Small town life is restorative, and the town is lovely and quirky, but I would love to be closer to the big city and bright lights, restaurants open late and CULTURE! I have attached a selfie we took as the ice plants bloomed out here last month. Gosh, California is beautiful.
I think I recall E telling me she’s a graduate of one of the Ivies. She is now loving her job as a teacher at an exclusive boarding school. I’m so happy she has stepped out of the “ordinary” for an African American woman and is [Read more…]
Thanks, so much CH for sending me this ARTICLE link! I’m sure that you, as a white man who appreciates black women, are happy to see prominent white men speaking out about this nonsense.
To those who may not be aware, recently, there was this (see pic) Old Navy Ad, featuring a Wm-Bw couple with their biracial son posted on Twitter that received many ignorant racist tweets. Some of us know that the son of Senator John McCain (candidate for the Presidency in 2008) is married to a black woman. I posted pics and their marriage announcement here on the Ezine a couple of years ago.
Anyway, here’s an ARTICLE from The Washington Post about the Senator’s son’s reaction to that Twitter brouhaha.
Therefore the senator’s son, who is married to a black woman, has no patience for critics of the clothing company’s ad. . . . Sen. John McCain’s son, Jack, had a blunt assessment of the people criticizing an Old Navy ad featuring an interracial couple: “Ignorant racists.” [He told them to] “Eat it.”
Okay, I scanned just a few of the tweets, and it was the usual garden variety vitriol from white racists at the bottom of the food chain, but what made me just move on fast were the ones from blacks. Some of them hotly stated [Read more…]
A few days ago, I received this note from a longtime reader and supporter of my work.
I have good news to share. I won a spot in People Magazine’s Natural Beauty contest. The magazine issue was released this past Friday (with Jennifer Anniston on the cover) and I’m on page 174. The issue is dated May 2, 2016. I publicly thanked Acts of Faith in Love and Life blog & Facebook page [listed under my BWE dropdown above] for letting the public know about the contest. When I let Faith know I won a spot we communicated about AA women being more proactive in participating in our media representation. WE need to take control of our personal brand. A picture of the People magazine page is attached to this email and feel free to share it.
Congratulations on your winning this spot in People Magazine! I’ve met you in person. You’re a positive, vivacious woman who oozes natural beauty, and who is also a talented salsa dancer. Thanks again for teaching us all those salsa moves at our MICOMSA retreat here at the farm! Lol You’ve invested time and energy in preserving your fitness and beauty, and countless times, you’ve shared with other black women the critical need to do the same. You’ve now been publicly rewarded. Bravo!
Taking charge of our media representation is SO critical, per your conversation with Faith. The shaping of our image requires very careful thought and long range thinking because what might make us look good today might backfire on down the road. For ex., I think that too many black women are trying to be crowned as the sexiest [Read more…]