I took the following profound quote from the Chase video posted above in the featured box.
When it comes to investing, it helps to adopt a long-term perspective. In this story we see a young boy and girl take the same approach with their relationship. They’re masters of being patient and waiting for the right time, which ultimately yields the best results.
I have always used this exact wisdom in my relationships with men, and I’ve always gotten great long term results. If you’re patient, you learn so much about the other person, and that in itself enables you to avoid about 95% of the mistakes people make in relationships. Patience is critical in vetting.
One lesson I totally learned from my Phase 1, my 10-year blogging phase, that it is critical to stress to those who may consume your content that everything is not for everybody. If I had just made that clear or drilled it in at the beginning, I could have avoided a lot of the heat that surrounded the interracial/intercultural plank in my articles. There were people who would come to my site as if they’d received an engraved invitation from me that morning and would then have a conniption fit about the pictures I posted and my written content. They should have never come to the site, but they couldn’t stay away and maybe I’m slow but it took me more than a minute to figure out why they came to stare at the pictures of black women with their nonblack spouse or significant other, and/or to read what I wrote.
The thing is that when you’ve always lived a certain way, it takes a while for it to sink in that your life is like uncharted territory for many others. So, I just didn’t get it at first that there were so many segments of people who were heavily invested in black American women remaining in place. They were absolutely undone that I was exposing these women to brand new vistas that the average black woman could actually visit, stay awhile, or live there permanently.
So in Phase 2 now, I’m just saying before I begin my podcast videos that my content may not be for you. You may not have reached a point in your life where you even think that my views can help you in any way. You may not be ready or want to use anything I say even if you think my views are solid gold. Some of my views may open up unresolved issues. Some of my views may arouse very intense emotions in you, unsettle or even scare you. LOL
I’m only saying and elaborating on what I’ve been thinking, living, and sayingfor decades because I paid intense attention to the teachings of various wise others and also learned from my daily up-close observations of different cultural ways, wide array of personal experience, from broad readings, and from my daily analyses. There is nothing new under the sun. I’m just unveiling it again, passing it on, paying it forward for my grandchildren and anyone else who may find value in what I offer.