Happy New Year – 2018! I will be video podcasting and blogging lots more frequently this year. Been hibernating too long! LOL!
I hope you will listen to my latest video https://youtu.be/Vb3DHhmwpLg in my series on how marriage brings health, greater wealth and well-being to a woman’s life–and that of her children, grandchildren, etc.– in critical ways, and particularly the lives of black American women–as well as those who are similarly situated. Please listen on YouTube and LIKE and Subscribe to the videos there. Feel free to join my mailing listing here to receive updates.
Also thanks, CH, for this Bw-Wm IR video LINK. Some of you may be familiar with this couple, but CH is a white man who continues to supply me with links re bw getting public appreciation from men of various groups. I’ll be posting those links here since . Like me, he knows there’s something malignant about the various clusters of people who don’t want black American women, in particular, to know they are appreciated and desired for marriage by men of diverse backgrounds.
Back to my video—personally, my general well-being and wealth exponentially increased as a result of marrying 2 productive men. So, I continue to beat this drum for other black American women.
Drilling Down: The two men I married are both loving and productive men, but I ruthlessly vetted them for those qualities. I cut them no slack in either area. He had to show love for me and prove he could bring enough critical perks to my table for the present and the future. “Enough” varies from woman to woman. A certain level of compatibility existed from the outset between me and both guys I married, so I knew I would easily love them more over time, since they were positioned to be productive and loving towards me over time. A man who is productive and loving is almost always going to also be protective and a problem solver for a woman. Protective, productive-provider, problem solver. Those are the 3 Ps that I’ve advised women to mainly look for in men IF she’s at the stage of marriage. Younger women may be looking for mostly thrills, chills, drama, charisma, fun, and a man who lives on the edge. That type of man is not marriage material because none of those fluffy traits are going to last over the long haul.
Here’s another vetting error many women make: I’ve heard so many women say that she has to be able to have a good conversation with a prospective guy, but from my long-range standpoint and I’ve been both an observer and successfully married for over 4 decades, this is a flawed criteria. Trust me on this. He may be a conversation maestro, but you won’t be talking with him for long if he doesn’t bring the 3 Ps. Many times, when a woman meets a man who she can have long conversations with and who she feels so comfortable with, she then begins to vet him on the curve. She feels so at home with him until she closes her eyes to the 3 Ps because she’s swooning over his conversation skills. Remember, any woman can have plenty of good conversations with girlfriends, cousins, or even join a conversation chat line. A woman doesn’t need a husband-friend to be her chat partner. She needs a 3P husband.