Thanks, again, CH for the whole array of YT videos, articles, movies, links, etc. that you continue to send me featuring bw-wm couples. You are really on it! LOL You are giving me so much fodder for posts here! Whew.
“Yes, some of us guys find women beautiful, regardless skin pigmentation or hair ‘texture’.”
This comment of yours is particularly important for me to highlight and expound on here because you and many other white men will never have any idea of the huge amount of layered propaganda that still targets black women, particularly from some in the various black communities and black social circles to cause black women to doubt their appeal and to believe that white men do not find black women attractive, let alone beautiful. I’ve heard more times than I can count and only from other blacks that white men will not marry black women, and the only white men who find black women attractive are those with emotional quirks, like a fetish or have a twisted (dangerous aka serial killer) way of thinking or are the wm who are totally rejected by white women. Remember that this message comes at black women in many forms and is repeated endlessly to make most black American women believe that they should wait for God to send them a mate. In other words, and not to sound sacrilegious, but the intent behind the words is to make black women believe that only God could find black women appealing enough for marriage. It takes God to caste a spell on a man to cause him to want to marry the average black woman. LOL
I know that might sound hilarious to you but this is a common message among blacks in America. “Wait for God to send your mate,” is still preached in many black churches across America, but what made me reject various messages of this sort, starting when I was about 10 years old was that I noticed they were always aimed ONLY at black women–NEVER black males. I was raised going to a black Baptist church and I’ve mingled with black church-goers as an adult. The black women themselves, drill this type of drivel into teen girls and other women, but I have never heard any black male tell another black male to wait for God to send him a woman. Luckily for me, my grandmom and mom were cut from a different cloth, and this is the reason I continue to batter down this “Wait for” message now, for my granddaughters’ sake and likeminded other black women.
A variation of this message is ALWAYS circling around black American women, coming from other blacks. This is why I’ve urged explore-all-options black women to “escape” blacks of this type and either join or form networks with other black women in their identity group, and others who uplift them.
Countless black American women believe this “Wait for” because they’ve been bludgeoned with it from the time they were teens and they believe it all the more because it comes from their moms, aunties, female cousins, grandmas and Sister So-and-so at the church, AND from the mostly male black ministers. They’ve been thoroughly programmed and it couldn’t have happened without the willing participation of other black women who were brainwashed at an early age themselves. This is the underlying reason that so many black American women are single and naturally some of them decide to have their children without marriage–since the type of man most of them have been told to ‘wait for,’ barely ever shows up. Even many black women who don’t go to church have been influenced by this message from church-going other women because most black women associate only with other black women. I’m happy to learn and see that some black women have escaped but many are still in a stranglehold, bound by other black women who keep the grip on them.
Here’s a fact that the typical black American will NOT say: If the average black American women waited for marriage before having kids, the black American population would be in the very low single percent digits by now. Men propose marriage, so holding out for marriage from same-group males is considered a joke by many black women. I know quite a few black women who waited for marriage before having children–including a first cousin and several friends. They are my age now and never had children. They wish now they’d had children.
Personally, I’m opposed to women having children without marriage to a quality man because I know what it’s like to raise children. Because I vetted their dad, my sons grew up with a fully involved father whose background, intellect, and income afforded the family various perks. This is precisely why I continue to urge black women to take advantage of ALL of their relationship options, despite what naysayers say to them about the lack of interest of other men, especially the largest portion of men in their environment–white men.
I also continue to beat this drum because this “wait for” message is a quite evil message. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying: The only way for evil to triumph is for good people to do nothing. I can’t confront all the evil in the world, but this is a type of evil that I will do my best to combat. I think you’re on the same page.
We are all human, created by the same force. The overwhelming portion of humans want to pair-bond and reproduce. We don’t know exactly why. Black women, just like any other women, want to pair-bond and reproduce too. To try to brainwash a small segment of healthy and fertile human females to believe that the largest population of males in her environment do not want them–because of the coil of her hair and the brownness of her skin–is really vile. And what’s even much worse about it is that it comes mainly from her own people who have the same skin and hair texture!
Some of this propaganda is so finely-tuned and surgical until Madison Avenue could learn much from these black propagandists. Their aim, of course, is to keep the masses of black women thinking that the vast majority of nonblack men who might show black women any attention have ulterior motives. They are determined to keep as many black women as possible believing that they are not appealing to nonblack males, and particularly not white males, the largest portion of the males in the U.S. Any thinking person can easily figure out who is behind this propaganda and why they do it.
Not to get all metaphysical, but karma is a tough row to hoe. I believe that blacks in America will pay (already paying) for what they’re doing to black American girls and women. All groups must deal with the seeds they sow, their karma.
So, I’m happy you mentioned hair texture because many black women are totally, absolutely, and completely convinced beyond any doubt that white men do not like our tightly curled/coiled hair, the type of hair texture that the vast majority of black women naturally have. If studied scientifically, there are probably at least 50, 000,000 discrete types of coiled hair that black women have–ranging from tightly curled to looser curled and straight, but many black people have disdain for tighter coiled hair, so they project this disdain on to white men. LOL. Most black people are very dishonest about their true feelings of disdain for black coiled hair and dark skin. It makes them very uncomfortable, so they blame it, or project the disdain on white men.
Of course, Darren and I have talked about hair among just about everything else regarding “race.” He loves my natural hair, and doesn’t care much how I wear it. He always compliments me on whatever style I wear. Honestly, I don’t even think he cares much whether I even have hair. LOL. Over the years, some of my hairstyles have probably been an eyesore, but he always finds something positive to say to make me feel appealing. If I wore a wig or weave hair style, or purple hair, I know it would be fine with him. That’s so calming and de-stressing to know that my mate embraces the me in me.
As he told me once, if we’d had children, he would have early on steered them away from other people’s issues with skin shade and hair texture. He would have explained to them from the outset that it’s all hair, and the only difference between my hair and his is that his is loosely curled and mine is tightly curled. And that would have been the end of the hair topic in our family. Likewise, we would have taught our kids about the heights and depths of achievements in both of our cultures/histories. My ex-husband and I taught our sons religiously about their black cultures, his and mine. Our sons, today, are very proud of their heritage.
I think these images and the accompanying messages are critical to awaken more people to all of their relationship options, in that some of the messages bend the mind and force intelligent people to think outside the usual erected and guarded boundaries. I label these messages as “killshots.” I believe that the images and messages in the links you send are killshots aimed largely at white men, to shatter some of their inertia about approaching black women for serious relationships. I think that’s the purpose behind all of those ad links you’ve sent me. Subtle, but effective.
For example, just think about the powerful message included with this Jeep VIDEO you sent.
Flying might be the quickest way from A to B, but it is anything but the most scenic, or the most rewarding. Make your way in a Jeep® Compass, and get to a place no …
My translation: Getting with a same group mate might be the quickest way to get with someone but it’s anything but the most interesting, or the most rewarding. I can certainly attest to that!
It’s a succinct message but it packs all kinds of explosives! I would love to meet the person(s) who formulated this message. Wow!
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