Darren

November 26, 2016 By evia Leave a Comment

After 55 Anthropologist: My Upcoming Series – Phase 2

Darren and Adah, my granddaughter, (above) when she was a little over 2 years old.

It’s been a while! I’ve been involved in plenty of stimulating activities, lots of learning, and reflecting on various things. I’m worn out but loving it all. Thanks to all of you who continue to register for my mailing list. I appreciate you so much.

The election season has come and gone. Whew! I wasn’t surprised that the president-elect won. I never doubted he’d win. That is, until the scandal about the sexual gropings broke. At that point, I thought there might be a chance he’d lose, but he didn’t because the vast majority of women did what the vast majority of women have always done in a patriarchal world. They support the patriarchy. Duh!

So, the only thing I did after the results were announced was to remove the [Read more…]

July 27, 2016 By evia Leave a Comment

After-55 Anthropologist: Living No Ordinary Life

Here I am at 6:30 a.m. this morning right before our workout. We get out in the park early before the heat and humidity slams the area and saps up our best energy.

Everyone knows by now that physical fitness is important because it’s a de- stressor and generally preserves health. Well, duh! But many people don’t act like they know that. Darren and I do a rigorous workout at least 4-5 days every week. We don’t always do it together though. It depends on our schedule for the day. We actively encourage each other to engage in exercise though and we compliment each others’ appearance. Did you do your workout yet? It might rain later, so you’d better go now. Or he’ll come upstairs and say: Come on! Let’s get over to the park before it gets too late. Or I’ll say: I’m going over to the park. You want to ride with me?

And there’s nothing like her man complimenting her figure to make most [Read more…]

April 15, 2016 By evia

Marriage, Intellectual Riches, Legacy

Here are my husband, Darren, and Adanna, my granddaughter, when she was 20 months old. Of her 3 granddads, I think she views him as the granddad who is her buddy, her BFF. He has endless patience with her, teaches her math concepts, spends time helping her put puzzles together, build Lego structures, tells her the names of different plants when they go walking, talks to her about the needs and personality of each plant, plays ball with her, acts like a silly goose with her, splashes in the swimming pool with her and gives her tips on water safety, etc. He is helping her to develop a thought system about the world that teaches her that knowing things, learning about nature, knowing how things operate and how each thing connects with other things, and that participating in various activities are all very important.

He could just as well spend that time with her playing a video game or watching TV, except that he knows that would be of much less value to her. Watching TV is a spectator activity. Motivating her to use her brain to connect dots about abstract concepts and the environment helps her to develop a way of viewing the world and to more confidently participate in it. What has this got to do with marriage, you might wonder. Well, [Read more…]

January 28, 2016 By Evia

New Mommy Tyra Banks! The Gritty Slice & Nuances of “I Want a Man on My Level” & Other Wordings

I was thrilled to read this morning that Tyra Banks and her long-term boyfriend, Erik Asla (Norwegian photographer) are the new parents of a baby boy via a surrogate mother!! ARTICLE I was sad for Tyra last year when I read that she so passionately wanted to have children but was unable to conceive. At 41 then, her biological clock was taking its last gasps. She was undergoing the IVF treatments that she described as ‘traumatic.’

Well, this is an example of how money CAN actually buy life. LOL! Women with her resources can pay another woman to carry their fertilized egg. But hey, being a surrogate mom has become a lucrative new profession for some women. This is a win-win situation. This is a profession that even some older women can engage in because under the right circumstances, a healthy enough older woman (I’ve read of a few cases of women in their sixties doing this!!) can carry a fertilized egg and birth the child of a younger woman whose body is impaired in some way. I tell ya: A woman’s body is a magnificent creation! LOL!

As a marriage advocate, [Read more…]

October 12, 2015 By Evia

Smart Women Never Lose the Lesson

Thanks, CH for pic of this American serviceman and his girlfriend.

They look so content to be with each other. It’s great to see people looking like this these days. LOL
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Recently received the note below from a reader, who is wrestling with a quite different human experience.

She thinks she has lost at love, but she hasn’t lost anything worth having. It never existed, except in her mind. A delusion. I shudder though at the 5+ years of precious womanly time she invested with this male. Whew! Since I wanted to do a post, I decided to write a response to her note and feature it here as a ‘slice-and-dice,’ of how failure-prone thinking directs lives towards failure, in the hopes that my analysis may be of service to others.

No person deserves to be treated like this. We were born noble, to be treated nobly, with respect, but failure-prone thinking will always invite predatory people and situations into our surroundings and make them comfortable around us.

We should all know that on the securing-a-quality-romantic-relationship front, 5 years of time for a woman is like 15 for a man because the reality is that there’s a shrinking pool of quality men available for women as we age. Blame it on evolutionary wiring and the life cycle, but the fact is that lots of men are surface-oriented, looking for younger women. There are CQLL men for women of all ages, but the reality is that the pool shrinks as we get older. Life is fair to the extent that [Read more…]

May 30, 2015 By Evia

Marriage Congrats, Must Read Article re Black Women’s Wealth Status

Thanks ES for the link to this couple’s beautiful nuptials.

Lorraine and Will

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CONGRATS! CONGRATS! CONGRATS! Wishing you all the best that life can bring!

(Photos by Cains Camera)

And I love what the blogger Chic Brown Brides is doing by showcasing these weddings and focusing on marriage matters.

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My 90-year old aunt had a large birthday party last weekend (Memorial Day weekend) down in Tennessee and Darren offered to drive me down to it. So, we went for a long weekend. Darren likes driving long distances; I don’t. But I love to [Read more…]

March 23, 2015 By Evia

Marriage: A High-Value Cultural Practice

Mr. & Mrs. Harris

NYT Marriage Announcement

Mrs. Harris TED Talking Just great!

For those who’ve wondered where I am and were considerate to write to inquire, I’ve been on vacation. I’ve been happily relaxing, working on my various crafts (like learning how to become proficient on my different knitting machines), and frolicking with my granddaughter–that is, whenever I dared to leave the house during these past frigid months to spend time with her. But finally, the thaw is on, for good, and that really lifts my spirits. I can’t wait to spend more time with her during the upcoming dreamy, warm spring weather. I already pulled out my roller blades and asked Darren to put air in my bike tires. I’ve scoured the internet for a bike for her, but I may have to get her a cart to hook onto my bike since she’s still months away from being 2 years old–and unable to ride a bike.

Darren? Well, he’s been anxious to plant potatoes but the ground is still frozen. So, that couldn’t happen in mid March as it usually does. Other than that, he’s winding down more and more on the number of hours he spends at work. I’m happy that he enjoys his job, but I think he wants to do something else now. We gave up our Philly apartment since we’ were rarely there any more. I haven’t even been to Philly since last July and he was only staying there a couple of nights a week, so it was really not a good use of the money.

Thanks CH for this pic of this young army family.

Anyway, I’ve been keeping an eye on certain events in the news (SMH), tracking certain trends, and thinking more about the direction I will take with my writing and online presence.

One thing I will comment on is that new FOX series starring Taraji Henson that’s creating so much hoopla because some critics say that all of the major stereotypical black characters are front and center in it. I haven’t seen it and would never watch it even if I could find the FOX network on my TV. LOL I also read where the show’s black defenders are claiming that black critics should be quiet so that at least black actors can get roles in that show and black viewers can see people who look like them on screen–even when they’re spreading poisonous images of blacks. SMH!

Well! That exactly the exact SAME argument used by some blacks to defend the performers and purveyors of violent, [Read more…]