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December 21, 2015 By Evia

Happy Holidays! 2 ADs Normalizing BWIR, Note from Reader, Podcast

Thanks RG for the Macy’s AD pic for Calvin Klein fragrance normalizing a bw with a beau from the global village. I wonder which demographic(s) was the target for this ad. I know that all marketing campaigns have a major target group in mind.

Thanks CH for this Youtube VIDEO AD for a sleek FORD SUV. Hmm, I wonder whether this AD was pitched more at men than women? And I wonder whether it was pitched more at the wm demographic. I don’t believe it’s pitched at bw because it shows too many close-up shots of the woman. Instead, most hetero women would want to see LOTS of close-ups of HIM–not her! I’m just saying. LOL

It’s telling that you, a wm, found the video. LOL!
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Been a while since I dropped in here. I’ve been so busy creating items for our online store, vending at holiday craft events, writing, making holiday gifts for family members, fulfilling a few store orders, and WELCOMING my newest grandchild!!

Yep! I was in the delivery room [Read more…]

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November 9, 2015 By Evia

Marriage Announcement–CONGRATS! & Stats re AA Men’s OOW Biracial Children in the Social Services Pipeline

Thanks, Felicia for this NYT MARRIAGE Announcement.

Even though I’m busy these days with other projects, I’m trying to keep up with posting links that you and others send. So, I’m posting this one NOW! Lol

Sorry to all of you who have sent me material that I haven’t posted.

But let us all wish this couple a blissful life together. I’m so happy she has found her ONE!

Apparently, her husband had never gotten the bizarre memo that AA/bw women are somehow “unfit” for marriage and yadda, yadda.

I know that the bulk of normal men have never gotten that memo and those men who have a mind of their own, won’t pay attention to it even if someone shoves it in their face. The bottom line is there is NOTHING more powerful than evolutionary wiring and nature. Bw–be ever thankful for that! Her husband makes this clear in why he wooed her.

He said: “She was young, beautiful and [Read more…]

October 12, 2015 By Evia

Smart Women Never Lose the Lesson

Thanks, CH for pic of this American serviceman and his girlfriend.

They look so content to be with each other. It’s great to see people looking like this these days. LOL
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Recently received the note below from a reader, who is wrestling with a quite different human experience.

She thinks she has lost at love, but she hasn’t lost anything worth having. It never existed, except in her mind. A delusion. I shudder though at the 5+ years of precious womanly time she invested with this male. Whew! Since I wanted to do a post, I decided to write a response to her note and feature it here as a ‘slice-and-dice,’ of how failure-prone thinking directs lives towards failure, in the hopes that my analysis may be of service to others.

No person deserves to be treated like this. We were born noble, to be treated nobly, with respect, but failure-prone thinking will always invite predatory people and situations into our surroundings and make them comfortable around us.

We should all know that on the securing-a-quality-romantic-relationship front, 5 years of time for a woman is like 15 for a man because the reality is that there’s a shrinking pool of quality men available for women as we age. Blame it on evolutionary wiring and the life cycle, but the fact is that lots of men are surface-oriented, looking for younger women. There are CQLL men for women of all ages, but the reality is that the pool shrinks as we get older. Life is fair to the extent that [Read more…]

September 29, 2015 By Evia

Jim Crow Against Unambiguously Black Women. When Will Bw Take a Stand And Defend THEIR Interests?

UPDATE: Sept. 30, 2015

I initially wrote this post yesterday, but I’ve read on a few other sites where commenters are blaming these unambiguously black women for this club discriminating against them since they allowed their pics to be taken.

SMH–Folks always find a way to blame bw!

The fact is that we live in a time in the West where many people of all groups have slackened standards or none at all. Security is also an issue.

As a result, photos are required in more businesses and workplaces. Let’s not get confused. The problem was NOT that the photos were taken; the problem was the PURPOSE of the photos. They were used to discriminate against those ‘unambiguously black women.’ For those who don’t know the term: An ‘unambiguously black woman’ is a woman whose complexion and/or facial features, [Read more…]

May 30, 2015 By Evia

Marriage Congrats, Must Read Article re Black Women’s Wealth Status

Thanks ES for the link to this couple’s beautiful nuptials.

Lorraine and Will

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CONGRATS! CONGRATS! CONGRATS! Wishing you all the best that life can bring!

(Photos by Cains Camera)

And I love what the blogger Chic Brown Brides is doing by showcasing these weddings and focusing on marriage matters.

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My 90-year old aunt had a large birthday party last weekend (Memorial Day weekend) down in Tennessee and Darren offered to drive me down to it. So, we went for a long weekend. Darren likes driving long distances; I don’t. But I love to [Read more…]

April 15, 2015 By Evia

Invest in Brains – the Life -Enhancing Cultural Practice that Always Delivers a High Return

As most of my readers know, I’m a strong believer in marriage and I’m therefore a marrying-well strategist. Darren and I have been together for 14 years and I was with my ex-husband for over 2 decades. Married. Marriage trumps, as is proven by this recent case of the ex-Clipper owner’s wife “revenge.”

http://news.yahoo.com/woman-loses-home-other-gifts-wife-ex-clippers-085123262–spt.html

I’m a curator of life-enhancing cultural practices. It goes without saying that marriage has proven to be “the most” or one of the tiptop, life-enhancing cultural and societal, most evolutionarily-progressive practices of all time, and this is why it has always been supported and put on a pedestal by all societies, governments, and cultures–aside from, of late, the black American collective.

Since I’m black-American by ethnicity, I point out once again that the marriage rate among people from my ethnic background is abysmally low. And all I hear is excuse after excuse from blacks for why black Americans aren’t marrying more. For ex., I most often hear the financial excuse, which is that if black Americans had more money or were closer to being on a financial par with whites, they would get married at much higher rates. SMH

This lie, sponsored, constantly spread and overwhelmingly so by black Americans, is usually aimed at black American women to keep them unmarried, unsupported, and quiet, but as sympathetic sex partners for black American men, [Read more…]

March 23, 2015 By Evia

Marriage: A High-Value Cultural Practice

Mr. & Mrs. Harris

NYT Marriage Announcement

Mrs. Harris TED Talking Just great!

For those who’ve wondered where I am and were considerate to write to inquire, I’ve been on vacation. I’ve been happily relaxing, working on my various crafts (like learning how to become proficient on my different knitting machines), and frolicking with my granddaughter–that is, whenever I dared to leave the house during these past frigid months to spend time with her. But finally, the thaw is on, for good, and that really lifts my spirits. I can’t wait to spend more time with her during the upcoming dreamy, warm spring weather. I already pulled out my roller blades and asked Darren to put air in my bike tires. I’ve scoured the internet for a bike for her, but I may have to get her a cart to hook onto my bike since she’s still months away from being 2 years old–and unable to ride a bike.

Darren? Well, he’s been anxious to plant potatoes but the ground is still frozen. So, that couldn’t happen in mid March as it usually does. Other than that, he’s winding down more and more on the number of hours he spends at work. I’m happy that he enjoys his job, but I think he wants to do something else now. We gave up our Philly apartment since we’ were rarely there any more. I haven’t even been to Philly since last July and he was only staying there a couple of nights a week, so it was really not a good use of the money.

Thanks CH for this pic of this young army family.

Anyway, I’ve been keeping an eye on certain events in the news (SMH), tracking certain trends, and thinking more about the direction I will take with my writing and online presence.

One thing I will comment on is that new FOX series starring Taraji Henson that’s creating so much hoopla because some critics say that all of the major stereotypical black characters are front and center in it. I haven’t seen it and would never watch it even if I could find the FOX network on my TV. LOL I also read where the show’s black defenders are claiming that black critics should be quiet so that at least black actors can get roles in that show and black viewers can see people who look like them on screen–even when they’re spreading poisonous images of blacks. SMH!

Well! That exactly the exact SAME argument used by some blacks to defend the performers and purveyors of violent, [Read more…]